(Don’t have time to read the whole thing? I made the important stuff bold.)
Recently a dear friend of mine announced he was moving from Portland to Virginia and asked me to help him pack his things. Without consideration I immediately volunteered and a few days later I found myself knee-deep in books about conservation, religion, and biodiversity. His name is Dr. Bruce Rinker and to many he is known is a modern-day Indiana Jones. He has explored the world, discovered insects that no one knew existed, and studied with Jane Goodall. His resume’ is impressive but that’s not why I was willing to help. My willingness came from this: Bruce adds value to every relationship.
A little less than a year ago I was deep in the throws of building out a vision for a conference I was hoping to pull off in April. Dr. Bruce was the first person (after my wife) to believe in my vision, challenge it, and propel it forward. Bruce was the residual positive energy behind my vision and our friendship grew deep during the planning. He shared stories with me, anecdotes, and wisdom that motivated me forward. The best part was that I knew that whenever I saw him he would smile big, give me a warm hug, and resonate with positive energy and excitement. He always added positive energy to every situation.
On top of this, Bruce and I seem to live in a world of mutual-admiration. One wherewe are constantly looking for ways to build each other up, help each other grow as people, and learn more. To put it bluntly, we make our time valuable.
All this goes to say that the best way to get someone to do something they would normally drop a pill of cyanide before taking on the task – is to create valuable friendships and relationships where you bring value to each interaction. Be positive when possible and challenge the other when necessary (respectfully).Because Bruce did all of these things I was more than willing to invest time with him while packing roughly 300 boxes of books, antiques, and Mexican artifacts.
You can learn more about Bruce and his role with the the Shenandoah Valley Conservation Council here: http://valleyconservation.org
Connect with Bruce on LinkedIn here: H. Bruce Rinker